What's love

It is not spiritual recognition of your other half because if it was it would be really weird that people usually marry people they met at the gym, at school, or on the Internet... 

It is not only chemicals, I mean if your soulmate is the guy that makes you feel honey every time you see him, how many soulmates would you have in this massive world! 
It is not just timing, if not life would be boring, not complicated enough and you would marry every guy that came over when you needed it.
It is not passion/obsessive admiration, come on, it's not because she or he intrigues you or she or he can count until 10 in every languages that it makes her or him your other half. Everybody knows now that this kind of love never ends well, the routine comes by at some stage or the new exciting thing become a morning after headache.
It is not because you've got the same plan for the future that it is going to work either. How many people only desire having a family and buying a house, how do you match people together if they all want the same thing then?

What's love?

Today believing in long term relationship seems to be a bit naive. Religion principles are dying, Divorce is too easy, people and choices increasing way too fast, temptations everywhere, laziness taking over, technology helping it. Times have changed. People married for more than a decade are old. Young doesn't want be parents too early. They have too much to achieve before. Study, travel, party, enjoy. Life seems too short, too exciting, too damn fast.

For people like me, a bit lost, a bit desperate to find that someone to understand them...it is hard to live in this world. It is hard to give up on the desire to have the quiet life they didn't really have yet. The recession eating us for too long now does not help us to make plans ahead. Future is blurring. Our heart is bleeding. 
The princesses and the charming princes are definitely gone, princes are gay, princesses working. 

What else to believe in? 

If love is just giving, why don't we just adopt a cat and live all alone. Some people forgot that waking up besides someone else is already lucky. For them, it is routines, for other it is love. Some people are seeking guilty pleasures, temporary excitement, short amusements, they just don't realise they could have it every weekend when that someone beside you in bed won't be here forever. 
Those days people don't waste their time understanding one person but spend loads trying to meet others. Every relationship becomes shallow and weak. And do not last only repeat. Being close to someone is too complicated for them. It means effort, it means being patient, it means being smarter when it's easier to fly above the surfaces. 
It all comes to respect. The respect we give to every individuality, being aware of their differences, work with them, being curious, being a bit more spiritual. Respect needs time. And it seems that people don't take time anymore. They want to live too much. 

Love is choosing. Love is choosing to be flying around the world meeting people and partying or built a life with someone else. Love is choosing a person that you respect enough to be with no matter what. You could decide to share moments, or you could decide to share a life. You could decide to share many roads, or you could chose one and built the destinations. You could try to find happiness or let someone else put a smile on your face. You could give love around you or share love with one. 

But if you don't choose to be happy yourself first, you'll never know what's love is.